Angry Feminist Ramblings of an Insomniac
Oct. 28th, 2009 02:33 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
parallax23I'm supposed to be asleep. But I just finished reading a story online and something is bothering me, so this is my rant.
(Bear in mind that I am sleep deprived here and I may or may not take this down in the morning.)
I am SICK of reading a story where after the leading guy and leading girl split up, the guy can go on a rampage of sleeping with a different woman every night while the girl is stuck home every night wallowing (while she may or may not be pregnant). Then when the guy and girl get back together (after girl catches guy with evil skank whore he's been using, and of course still forgives him), the guy makes some declaration about how he would have killed any other man who would have slept with his girl, and how glad he is that she didn't. Meanwhile, he was screwing half of California or wherever while she just sat around eating ice cream waiting for him to come to his senses.
I hate how the story emphasizes how it's okay for a guy to sleep with whoever he wants after a break up, but the girl has to maintain some nun-like celibacy. And I don't want to hear the b.s. that guys don't know how to deal with emotions and just screw anything that moves -- what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I've lost count of how many times I've read a story where the woman had to be a virgin before she got married, even though her future husband had at least ten other women before marrying her. Somehow, guys get off on being the first and only man "his true love" has been with. What about all those other women he was sleeping with? Aren't they ever going to be someone's "true love"? No, because society doesn't like whores. They're not people and they're not worthy of love or they wouldn't have spread their legs.
I especially hate it because this was the same b.s. that my mother fed me. I was told not to sleep with anyone before marriage because it would disturb my husband, but it's fine for him to screw around before we get married because it's his precious pride. I called crap on that theory the minute she told me it. And if you do find out that he was sleeping with someone interim for a break up and makes a comment about you being celibate, I say you guilt his ass for eternity for that bullshit.
This is probably I never do that in my stories (if I even bother to use couples). My heroines get to jump in the sack with the nearest hot guy too. I refuse to let some stupid girl take an oath of celibacy and sit there crying over a tub of Ben & Jerry's. In my original stories, I don't emphasize who has sex first or with whom unless it's actually important. Eighty percent of the time, it's not.
When is society going to get over that stupid little piece of flesh? The double-standard is ridiculous. Think outside the box people! The only reason they wanted "virgins" back in the day was to assure paternity (of course, we all know how much more accurate that is that maternity). Now a trip to a clinic can clear that problem right up. Or if you're poor and in dire need of attention, there's always Maury.
This is like when I'm bored and actually listen at weddings and the pandit goes on about "maidenly virtue" and leaves out the guy's cavorting. At that point, I just want to find a cute guy in the room and screw his brains out. Of course, most guys don't actually sit inside for the wedding ceremony (that's too girly for them, they hang out in the front and either smoke and/or drink, or they only go to the reception where there is alcohol throughout the night and girls with smaller dresses, not shalwars and saris which FYI you can't hike up) and to top it off most males in attendance either related to me or I would rather go lesbian than tap that! Maybe the next wedding I go to won't be so bad... (And pigs will sprout wings and fly in front of one eligible guy...)
Of course, at the rate I'm going, slutty spinster doesn't seem so bad either.
Anyway, the point is all you heroines out there, don't be afraid to whore it up before going back to Prince Charming. And make sure you do it before the bump starts to show!
(Bear in mind that I am sleep deprived here and I may or may not take this down in the morning.)
I am SICK of reading a story where after the leading guy and leading girl split up, the guy can go on a rampage of sleeping with a different woman every night while the girl is stuck home every night wallowing (while she may or may not be pregnant). Then when the guy and girl get back together (after girl catches guy with evil skank whore he's been using, and of course still forgives him), the guy makes some declaration about how he would have killed any other man who would have slept with his girl, and how glad he is that she didn't. Meanwhile, he was screwing half of California or wherever while she just sat around eating ice cream waiting for him to come to his senses.
I hate how the story emphasizes how it's okay for a guy to sleep with whoever he wants after a break up, but the girl has to maintain some nun-like celibacy. And I don't want to hear the b.s. that guys don't know how to deal with emotions and just screw anything that moves -- what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I've lost count of how many times I've read a story where the woman had to be a virgin before she got married, even though her future husband had at least ten other women before marrying her. Somehow, guys get off on being the first and only man "his true love" has been with. What about all those other women he was sleeping with? Aren't they ever going to be someone's "true love"? No, because society doesn't like whores. They're not people and they're not worthy of love or they wouldn't have spread their legs.
I especially hate it because this was the same b.s. that my mother fed me. I was told not to sleep with anyone before marriage because it would disturb my husband, but it's fine for him to screw around before we get married because it's his precious pride. I called crap on that theory the minute she told me it. And if you do find out that he was sleeping with someone interim for a break up and makes a comment about you being celibate, I say you guilt his ass for eternity for that bullshit.
This is probably I never do that in my stories (if I even bother to use couples). My heroines get to jump in the sack with the nearest hot guy too. I refuse to let some stupid girl take an oath of celibacy and sit there crying over a tub of Ben & Jerry's. In my original stories, I don't emphasize who has sex first or with whom unless it's actually important. Eighty percent of the time, it's not.
When is society going to get over that stupid little piece of flesh? The double-standard is ridiculous. Think outside the box people! The only reason they wanted "virgins" back in the day was to assure paternity (of course, we all know how much more accurate that is that maternity). Now a trip to a clinic can clear that problem right up. Or if you're poor and in dire need of attention, there's always Maury.
This is like when I'm bored and actually listen at weddings and the pandit goes on about "maidenly virtue" and leaves out the guy's cavorting. At that point, I just want to find a cute guy in the room and screw his brains out. Of course, most guys don't actually sit inside for the wedding ceremony (that's too girly for them, they hang out in the front and either smoke and/or drink, or they only go to the reception where there is alcohol throughout the night and girls with smaller dresses, not shalwars and saris which FYI you can't hike up) and to top it off most males in attendance either related to me or I would rather go lesbian than tap that! Maybe the next wedding I go to won't be so bad... (And pigs will sprout wings and fly in front of one eligible guy...)
Of course, at the rate I'm going, slutty spinster doesn't seem so bad either.
Anyway, the point is all you heroines out there, don't be afraid to whore it up before going back to Prince Charming. And make sure you do it before the bump starts to show!
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Date: 2009-11-08 09:28 pm (UTC)Wow, good goals! One nice thing about teaching (from what I hear) is that it gives you some free time to work on other projects. So you can have a steady paycheck while you write your masterpiece :-) I think you'd be a good TV writer, or at least you'd probably improve the quality of most TV shows. That might be your biggest hurdle, finding a show that would be willing to take the risk of not being a copy of every other show on television.
(Yay for living at home! For me right now it's a financial thing, and earlier it was a "I broke myself so badly I couldn't live on my own" thing. Long story.) After college will probably be more schooling. There are two jobs that I'm looking seriously at, profiling (probably with the FBI) or becoming a coroner or medical examiner. Either way I'll be dealing with school loans for a long time :p. I'd love to be able to write a book, but I'm not sure I have the ability to write one that would be worth the pain, sweat and tears lol. Ultimately my main goal (since I was a little kid) is to make enough money to buy a bar, and open up a little neighborhood pub. It could either be a side business or something I do after official retirement. I just know that it's what I've always wanted.
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Date: 2009-11-09 04:34 pm (UTC)Thanks for believing in me! I actually spent years writing, then when I got to college I stopped. Now I'm getting back into it, but it's not on the level I was in my teens. I'm a bit more focused though.
I like your career aspirations! My brother keeps teasing me to work for the NSA as an investigator (the requirement is a BA in English! lol). One of my friends works at the M.E. and she likes it.
You wanted a bar? That is so funny, I just did a story sketch of a girl who leaves behind her old life behind and gets a bar named after an Alice in Wonderland character (I went with "The Mock Turtle" because there are lots of bars named after the Cheshire Cat and Mad Hatter). Well, the story mostly focuses around Jake, a guy who comes home from college to find out that his favorite hang out has a new owner and that life went on without him.
Well, if you do open one up, do let me know so if I do end up down there I'll see it for myself. Maybe I'll get the nerve up to do a spec script and go to L.A. to try my luck like I've dreamed of since I was ten.
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Date: 2009-11-17 05:39 am (UTC)I can understand how college would cause issues with being able to write as much. But it's great that you're getting back into the practice. Have you ever been to "Write or Die"? I recently started using it, and it really encourages you to just write, it doesn't have to be Shakespeare, just getting something down.
I saw that you stopped NaNoWriMo, and I completely agree with your reasons. I tried entering a "Write a fanfic a day for a month" competition and I just couldn't hack it. I had so many ideas, but I just couldn't make it work with that sort of pressurized timetable.
Thank you! I'm fond of them too lol. And I had no idea a BA in English could be so useful :-)
Huh...sounds like a really interesting story. Is it just the sketch or are you actively working on the story? (I've always wanted to name my bar "The Rattlin' Bog")
Should I ever actually open my bar you'll definitely get an invite. And if you head out to L.A. I'd like to know how you manage (and if you get a TV show I want a minor character named after me ;-)
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Date: 2009-11-18 12:25 am (UTC)The story is just a sketch. Everything except the fanfic is going to be a sketch for now, I need to get my act together for grad school apps.
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Date: 2009-11-20 07:48 am (UTC)Pft, who needs grad school? (Kidding, one of my brothers is doing that right now, he's just about ready to start tearing his hair out.) I hope you'll be able to get back to writing your own stuff soon, and good luck with grad school! Do you know where you want to go?
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Date: 2009-11-21 12:11 am (UTC)NYC is kind of the end all, be all of my universe. I was born and raised here. And I haven't really gotten out of the city much in my life. Also, New Yorkers aren't that enamoured by film shoots, because when you have to catch your train or get to work before your boss wants to kill you or need to get to class and you have to stand there waiting for them to finish, it's not so fun.
All grad students want to tear their hair out, I heard it comes with the immeasurable poverty. But usually professors have crazy hair, so I'm guessing it grows back at some point? I'm only applying on a lark, if I don't get a PhD program, I'll just leave it. No big deal, I've got options.
P.S. I'm going to assist as a P.A. on a TV pilot being shot tonight. Another spur of the moment things with me. I hope you notice a pattern here?
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Date: 2009-11-26 06:47 am (UTC)LOL I've begun to notice, this is the second brother to go through the grad student process. Luckily the first one did it far away so I wasn't too bothered. The hair grows back, at least I think it does since brother #1 has a lovely head of hair that he doesn't have to cut because he's a mad scientist. Well I hope you get your program, if that's what you want, and if not, then I hope you get whatever you do want.
P.S. Holy crap! That's great! How did it go? (The only pattern I notice is one of awesome...and impulsiveness :-)
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Date: 2009-11-27 04:59 pm (UTC)I thought front lawns were an urban myth until I was 9 and made my first visit to the suburbs, and the first time I went to Florida I got freaked out by how much empty space there was.
P.S. The shoot was good. It wasn't bad weather for a November night.
Believe it or not, I had my entire life planned out when I was 16. Then real life actually happened and well, as you can guess, the plan didn't happen. To top it off, I graduated into the start of the recession and couldn't find a job (I just keep doing temp assignments). So I feel like taking all the opportunities I can to try new things.
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Date: 2009-12-06 04:34 am (UTC)O_o I can't imagine living without a big front and back yard. My brothers and I were able to play football games in our yard. Mowing it was of course a pain in the ass, but worth it for the space...we even have a nice vegetable garden and apple trees, just a few, not a whole orchard.
P.S. That's good. The weather's turned kinda crappy here, snow/rain mix.
I'm not too surprised that you knew what you wanted for so long. You strike me as a focused/determined sort of person (I mean that in a really good way). I had a rough sketch, but nothing firm. Although my folks had some definite ideas that I wasn't too excited about. I like your approach, trying whatever you can to experience new things and find what you want. Wish I did that more. I've been slowly trying to make my way through college but it's been rough. I had this kinda massive injury which kept me out of school for a long time and surgery's for additional fixings have complicated things. I'm doing community college since it's cheap and doesn't matter as much if I have to drop some courses. But it feels like it's taking forever.
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Date: 2009-12-11 12:25 am (UTC)I hope you're recovering well. I remember waking up a few years ago, feeling old and thinking my life was over (I had only turned 20!), but in the last few months I've realized it's never too late if you want to do something. When college is over, time will fly by too quickly. Seriously, enjoy it while you can.